Sustaining any commitment is always easier when you remember what is important to you. The busyness of life often blurs the very things that give us reason to sustain commitments. Each of us will benefit if we slow down and reflect on the personal reasons for our commitments.
The best commitments happen when we get to affiliate with something, or someone, that is important to us. Commitments require our time and resources. It is far easier to invest these resources in the commitments we believe are important to us.
I remember some sage advice I received from Pastor Dick, the man who married my wife and I over 25 years ago.
“Remember what brought you together,” he said, “When times get tough, those reasons will keep you together.”
His words are engraved on my mind and continue to guide me through the few difficult times our marriage has endured. They also contribute to my personal value system. I value the lessons from my history. Those lessons help encourage and guide you through tough times.
It is a simple principle. The things that cause you to commit to something, or someone, can provide the inspiration to sustain it. Walking away from difficult situations usually requires a cost. While you may find freedom from a bad situation, or find a new opportunity to pursue, walking away is not always the most beneficial.
This principle can also help us engage our work more effectively. The majority of people do not work at jobs they hoped it would be when they started. They learn about the job through a job description or interview. Yet, the actual job experience is often different. The formal on-boarding process never gives an adequate description of company culture, management styles, existing conflicts, and overtime. Therefore, few people work at the perfect job.
Once this realization sets in, it is important to remember what is important to you. This can help set expectations that are more realistic. In some cases, it can help point you to better opportunities, either internal or external.
Take time to remember what originally attracted you to your job. Your first thought will probably relate to money. Take it a bit further. Why did you pursue your current company over another company? What were the factors, beyond money, that helped you land your current job?
Money is a reason to take a job, but not a reason to love a job!
There are many things you can value in a job beyond money. These will be the things that will help you love your job. As I look back, I love opportunities that allow me to work with other people toward a shared goal and provide the freedoms to create and execute strategic plans and solutions. As I look back, I always gravitate toward these work conditions.
There are many reasons you can find to love your job. Can you share your reasons?